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Post by maris on Jan 2, 2011 22:52:07 GMT 2
Japan. Public display of affection... of different degrees > Rude too like all things in Japan! Starting a conversation with the person sitting next to you during a train or bus journey>Rude! You don't have to speak with someone you doesn't know. Only if you need an informations but you'll have to make many, many, many excuses. public display of affection does that include walking hand in hand too? Why is it considered rude to start a conversation with the person next to you on public transportation or make apologies when asking for information?
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Post by morgana on Jan 3, 2011 13:38:19 GMT 2
I am italian but I've been living in Denmark for the last 16 years. Shaking hands when you meet> The rule, generally acceptable, generally not acceptable, frowned upon, rude? The rule, in both countries.Kissing people on one or both cheeks when you meet>The rule, generally acceptable, generally not acceptable, frowned upon, rude? This is normal in Italy, if it's a friend or a friend of a friend or a relative, but you wouldn't kiss a business acquaintance for example. In Denmark you give a hug instead of kissing on the cheeks.Calling people by their first names after you have just been introduced>The rule, generally acceptable, generally not acceptable, frowned upon, rude? In Denmark it's the rule, in Italy it depends on the person you've been introduced to, but you usually only call someone by first name if it's a friend.Emotional outburst (ie, crying, or having a swearing rant) in public>The rule, generally acceptable, generally not acceptable, frowned upon, rude? Frowned upon in both countries.Complaining about something in a restaurant> The rule, generally acceptable, generally not acceptable, frowned upon, rude? It depends on how it's done.Discreetly jumping the queue if you think no one will notice> The rule, generally acceptable, generally not acceptable, frowned upon, rude? This happens a lot in Italy, but very seldom in Denmark. But it's never acceptable.Public display of affection... of different degrees > The rule, generally acceptable, generally not acceptable, frowned upon, rude? I would say that it's acceptable when it's young people displaying affection in Italy, and it's acceptable for everybody in Denmark.Starting a conversation with the person sitting next to you during a train or bus journey>The rule, generally acceptable, generally not acceptable, frowned upon, rude? It depends on the situation, but I would say generally acceptable.Splitting the check at a bar or restaurant> The rule, generally acceptable, generally not acceptable, frowned upon, rude? I guess generally acceptableBuying rounds in a bar>The rule, generally acceptable, generally not acceptable, frowned upon, rude? I don't think I've ever seen that in Italy, as people don't drink much. In Denmark everybody who buys rounds is very popular ;D"Hitting on" someone you do not know (like trying to flirt with someone in a bar)>The rule, generally acceptable, generally not acceptable, frowned upon, rude? The rule in Denmark, I am not sure in Italy, I don't think there's so much flirting going on in bars, people sit with their friends and it's more difficult to get to know strangers than in Scandinavia.A girl asking a guy out>The rule, generally acceptable, generally not acceptable, frowned upon, rude? That's quite normal in Denmark, but it doesn't happen as much in Italy. But I guess it's still acceptable if it happens [/quote]
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Post by iarnvidia on Apr 25, 2011 1:29:55 GMT 2
I live in Wisconsin--firmly in the Midwest part of the United States. These are my observations, having grown up here. Shaking hands when you meet> The rule. One is often judged by one's handshake, here--especially when first meeting someone formally and/or in a business setting. Even women. Kissing people on one or both cheeks when you meet>Generally not acceptable. I have never actually seen two people do this in greeting, unless they are joking around. If someone is greeting someone in a formal setting and/or does not wish to be intrusive, one shakes hands. Informally, and with someone one is close to, one will most often hug that person rather than kiss him or her. Calling people by their first names after you have just been introduced> Generally acceptable -to- rude. This is an interesting question. People in my age group were raised to use a person's last name (Mrs./Mr./Ms.) if that is a person in authority or we wish to show respect for him or her. I see many younger people, however, calling everyone by their first names--including their own parents--on a pretty regular basis. So it seems this "norm" is changing.Emotional outburst (ie, crying, or having a swearing rant) in public> Generally acceptable to rude. Depends on the situation and the person--some people think nothing of having a yelling rant in the middle of a restaurant or store if they are displeased with their service. The understanding in this situation is that this person is a complete jackass--but it still happens. Generally speaking, if someone is visibly crying/distressed in a public place, someone will ask the person if he/she needs help.Complaining about something in a restaurant> Generally acceptable. See above. definitely depends on the way it is done. Discreetly informing someone that your chicken is undercooked is acceptable; screaming at your waitperson because you do not like your salad dressing is considered incredibly obnoxious.Discreetly jumping the queue if you think no one will notice> Rude. Not only is this unacceptably rude, it is almost certain someone behind you in line will confront you about it.Public display of affection... of different degrees > Generally acceptable to frowned upon. This depends on, as you say, "different degrees." Displays of affection like holding hands, hugging each other is fine. Committing acts of "affection" in public one would otherwise have to be watching adult films to witness, however, will most likely lead to public confrontation and posssbily an arrest. Starting a conversation with the person sitting next to you during a train or bus journey>Generally acceptable. Generally acceptable, although there is always a safety factor involved lest a predator follow you off the bus/train.Splitting the check at a bar or restaurant> The rule. Assumed to be the rule, unless another arrangement is spelled out beforehand.Buying rounds in a bar>Generally acceptable. Friends take turns buying rounds for each other. Someone buying a round "for the house"--which happens very seldom--however, is often assumed to be very intoxicated and/or a little suspect. "Hitting on" someone you do not know (like trying to flirt with someone in a bar)>Generally acceptable. Expressing interest, or even flirting without any real intent, is acceptable as long as it isn't done in an offensive manner. When it begins to be more harrassing than flirtatious, this does not end well.A girl asking a guy out>Generally acceptable. Depends on the age and life experiences of the people involved, completely. Very traditional, conservative Midwestern Americans (of any age group) tend to be much more scandalized by the idea a female would/could express interest in a male. People of either gender who have a more critically thinking worldview tend to be quite comfortable with it. We have both extremes here, which makes for a lot of funny dating stories around here.
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Post by erlking on May 5, 2011 22:32:55 GMT 2
Reporting in from South Africa. Maybe this will interest you since I've not seen any other South African members here... Shaking hands when you meet> Normal though perhaps not between a guy and a girl meeting at an informal occasion. Kissing people on one or both cheeks when you meet> we never do that here. Calling people by their first names after you have just been introduced> you call people by how they introduce themselves. Emotional outburst (ie, crying, or having a swearing rant) in public> not uncommon. Complaining about something in a restaurant> Not uncommon. Discreetly jumping the queue if you think no one will notice> Will cause a little drama. Public display of affection... of different degrees > depends on the degree... and if its two gay guys then there will definitely be some frowning. Starting a conversation with the person sitting next to you during a train or bus journey> pretty normal. South Africans like to complain about things. Splitting the check at a bar or restaurant> Depends on the occasion. On a date, maybe not but with friends its expected even if you get invited out by one of them. Buying rounds in a bar> you take turns buying the rounds but if its a bigger group (over 3) then usually everyone gives money to cover their drink to the now designated buyer and he/she goes off to get them. "Hitting on" someone you do not know (like trying to flirt with someone in a bar)> no idea. A girl asking a guy out> nah, girls are kinda stuck up here. Its never happened to me at least.
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Post by kuusuru on May 6, 2011 10:57:08 GMT 2
Reporting in from South Africa. Maybe this will interest you since I've not seen any other South African members here... Ahh... the land of boerewors (Yum!) and biltong (YUM!) . Welcome to the forum, good to see another from the Tri Nations
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