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Post by maris on Mar 17, 2011 7:23:51 GMT 2
But I think that friends also consists of multiple levels(of trust), the lowest circle of of friends rank higher then acquaintances but not high enough to give a example share your most inner secrets to them. With each level of friendship you'll open up yourself and confide in them more. That's how friendships grow with you
I wonder how parents are standing in this equivalent since most people don't really consider them as "a friend" but in general they know all about you and your secrets and you trust them for 100% and would go through fire for them and vice versa.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 17, 2011 20:00:27 GMT 2
Hmm... no takers yet? I'll bite ;D I did bite, it's in my head since our dear Heer posted first, but had not the time to do that. Words are cooking, I will not post in rush, as it is much too of a sensible topic and dear to me. It will probably be an ultra long post too. Meantime, I can say I understand perfectly the points you and Brother A. put up here, and I relate on most parts, yet I would like to detail. And the new nuance brought in discussion by Maris, is very complex and debatable too. Some parents do manage to be friends with their children, but I wonder how much of sincerity and open hearted can a friendship parent - child be, once that child grows and cannot exactly talk everything with a parent. Maybe I am wrong, I was always too independent and found my own way, so.. will see when I'll have kids. Ok , this sounds more like an advertisement for a future post I'll make. ;D ''I'll be back!''
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Post by Deleted on Mar 19, 2011 21:26:51 GMT 2
As promised and wished..my turn to take a look on friendship ...again. I will try to be faithful to the line of Heer's question, though I cannot promise I won't lose the path of thoughts. Hmm..defining friendship is easy , but so hard. Personally, I've ''grown'' a lot in my view upon it. I always held dear and probably on the highest level of human interraction the notion of friendship, and even with the dissapointments that I had on the road, I still believe in it with the same enthusiasm and trust in human honesty and good nature of some people. When I say I've grown on this, I mean that I've become even more selective and grew to be more careful to whom I give my heart, so to speak. I used to know nothing but devotion and complete trust and no half measures. Now, I know that only a few people deserve that and I know for certain who they are and what kind of people they are..and as mentioned by one of you before, the friends I made on here on forum and with whom I've had the great honour to spend time and laughs and good quality talks, are among my best ones. I may have said this before, but it's not for nothing if I say it again: coming on this forum, in some ways it has changed my life. (Must say I've had this suspicious perspective on internet talks and any form of ''friendship'' made on here..so, out of my love for KK I registered on the first forum ever for me, and even posted a lot..and the rest is history, or a to be continued story). I am still the same friendly person, but I offer no more the same amount of affection, time, interest to ''anyone'' that seems ''OK'on the road. Took me a while, but I've made it! Hahaa.. ;D Whoever said ''everything with measure'' wasn't a fool. I have this in my head now, and know that real friends one can have only a few, and that they ''run'' with you, without dragging you down. Nor try to change you. Friends are those who accept who you are, for what you are and enjoy your company as much as you enjoy theirs, and with whom you don't have to do anything special because the time spent together and the connection you have with ,works no matter what you do, or even say (including times when you drop the wrong words..good friends know how to solve these false conflicts). Friends are those who can be happy for you. Mourners in times of sadness are to be found on any road at any time..people who genuinely resonate with joy to your own are those who count, and life showed to me they're not many. (I've read this once in the past , but thought it's just...something bitter.) Heer E. Tik....I cannot respond more if I am to connect my perspective on this with the local behaviour, or culture , etc, as I've never found myself in the patterns of social behaviour here. I can only say things due to personal experiences and views, so.. Oh, yes, in a way probably due to age too, but that is strongly connected to experience in my case. And if I am to speak of age, I should complete my assertion on frienship by saying that I am lucky to have good friends of all ages. I feel like I should say more...or maybe is someone else's turn for now.
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