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Post by wolferin on Aug 12, 2010 7:59:18 GMT 2
Which are the most boring topics for discussion, according to you? What you hate to talk about, or makes you sleep from boredom, when someone is talking about it? I hate to listen vulgar talking about sex, etc., about perversions, atrocity, these sort of things. My boring top: politics pets high fashion, trade mark clothes "star" gossips cars details about someone's relatives, neighbors, friends, which I don't know, esp. for illnesses someone showing endless pictures of a journey, I'm not interested in Brazilian and Turkish TV serials
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Post by Deleted on Aug 12, 2010 9:41:09 GMT 2
high fashion, trade mark clothes "star" gossips details about someone's relatives, neighbors, friends, which I don't know, esp. for illnesses someone showing endless pictures of a journey, Put that on my list too, plus the hard trying of some to find a must in having a conversation exactly the time when all you wish is to look through the window or sth. No matter the topic they ''hit'' with. Tis also boring, at least to me , the rewind of an event everybody knows of, but some people keep putting it into light... oh, or repeating same jokes over and over again, for years. Or, as it happenned to me, hearing childhood stories and details of someone's life (what they did, with whom, why, what they ate ,cooked. spoke with,etc) when nobody was interested, What is worse is when these people don't realise the ridiculousity of the situation... Especially when you do that with some audience, gods! Such as coworkers... I realise I have just spit some frustrations from my working place damn. I go there next week. will put headphones again in case of necessity. ;D
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Post by kuusuru on Aug 12, 2010 13:04:06 GMT 2
Which are the most boring topics for discussion, according to you? What you hate to talk about, or makes you sleep from boredom, when someone is talking about it? I agree with your whole list, except: - I've never seen Brazilian or Turkish TV, so I can't judge ;D
- Politics is boring but if people took a more critical interest in it politicians might find it more difficult to manipulate them.
And I'll add to the list conversations about gadgets and high-tech devices. I don't care about the latest camera/phone/iWotsit/doo-dad and how great it is and why it's better than what everyone else has and how you got such a great price for it and blah blah blah. When was the last time you read a book you ignoramus!!!
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Post by Socke on Aug 12, 2010 13:36:01 GMT 2
Now this topic reminds me of one evening when we had the monthly 'Stammtisch' meeting of the Germans that ended up in Oulu for one reason or another... one of them being one particularly talkative person, who focused his talk on solely three subjects I'm not in the least interested in (children, sports, economy). So I watched what there was on TV in that bar, though that wasn't much more interesting, either (unless you like watching people sticking chopsticks into other people's noses).
Apart from that I concur with kuusuru on the last point... I just don't get why people always need the newest high-tech devices, and talking about all that stuff really bores me to hell.
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Post by Bartbär on Aug 12, 2010 19:15:02 GMT 2
My top: Books Philosophy People who always talk about this Korpiklaani band that I've never heard of Life Ok ok, enough joking around, I just want to see how many people I can give a heart attack to. I'd have to agree with the majority of the aforementioned, although in some cases I think they can be good, but ONLY if talked about between two people that have the same level of interest in said topic. My personal least favorites: Gossip, of any sort, I hate gossip. Sometimes I understand having to vent about the actions of so-and-so or this and that, but when it is non-stop everyday gossip I hate it more than anything. Fashion or anything relating to pop-culture. People are too obsessed over things that mean absolutely nothing. If you want to look nice out in public, fine, but don't talk on and on about how you just bought a new shirt from such-and-such designer. Politics under certain connotations: namely when the discussion is between someone who acts like they know everything about politics, or has the typical political mind-set that they learned from watching biased news stations all day. I love discussing politics, but there are only a few people I can discuss it with without wanting to jump off a cliff. Work talk: people that come home from work and spend the rest of their day TALKING about work. Take a freaking break for crying out loud! There's nothing wrong with letting people know how your day went, but when you talk about it for hours, especially to someone who doesn't work with you and has no idea what you are talking about, it's just a waste of time... and valuable oxygen. ;P
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Post by Deleted on Aug 12, 2010 19:50:10 GMT 2
Not a heart attack, but I had to wipe my lens! And ja, work talk! how could I forget that???!!! I put on my list also... convincing one of the benefits of buying something. By anyone!
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Post by Humppaporo on Aug 12, 2010 21:05:47 GMT 2
Yesterday a stranger walked into my garden, he was looking for me and wanted to know if he could use some photo's i took from him years ago... i could hardly remember him, but he seemed nice, so i made some coffee and we talked... for about two hours, then i had to get back to work, otherwise i would not have been able to finish it. Today i got an email from him. He wrote: 'I am happy that we did not discuss the weather' and then i realized that the weather the normal topic is among strangers... or maybe even not even just strangers. I think the weather is boring, like all chit-chat, unless the weather is really extreme, then it might be a topic. So: the weather
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Post by Bartbär on Aug 12, 2010 21:45:10 GMT 2
Hahaha "so how about this weather, huh?" the weather is indeed a popular topic among strangers. Here lately since it's been so hot, almost anytime I go to the store I keep hearing the same things at the cash register: "sure is hot out there." or "stay cool out there." It gets very annoying!
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Post by Heer E. Tik on Dec 15, 2010 6:01:52 GMT 2
Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, small minds discuss people. I don't know who said it first, but I stand by this quote. Everyday mediocrity is tolerable but makes for mediocre conversation, and as for people who constantly spill the beans on each other, proverbially speaking... I don't want to partake in any of that and would distance myself from those kinds. As another wise proverb says: One who gossips with you will gossip about you. I avoid discussing people with others. If someone asks me about our mutual friend, my reply always is, "why not ask/speak to that person directly." I don't like speaking for someone, thus denying them a chance to speak for themselves. Rumor-mongering, jealousies, and misconceptions can arise from the most innocuous conversations. So I steer clear of that... It's my weird sense of ethics I guess, but I absolutely despise that stuff. I think it's not as much boring/annoying topics themselves that can piss me off, but the manner in which they are engaged in. I stay clear of debates of any kind - it only expends my energy and if the other person is resolved on sticking to their opinion, why the hell waste oxygen clashing heads? This is why I avoid discussing stuff like politics and other potentially controversial/social subjects. However, if the other person has an open mind and it's a friendly open discussion where the point is to understand different perspectives, then it can make for a fascinating conversation. Even stuff like weather, cars, gadgets, etc... if it's not routine mundane chitchat but a deeper interest, or an attempt to read between the lines and dissect some phenomena, then it can be interesting. It's the mundane boring yappy attitude that makes it boring. I'd have to agree with the majority of the aforementioned, although in some cases I think they can be good, but ONLY if talked about between two people that have the same level of interest in said topic. I very much agree. I have found one-on-one conversations to be more insightful and deeper than those shared between three or more people at the same time. For me that's how it is. The more people are added, the more the conversation gets diluted, or else the most dominant individuals in the pack (usually extroverts) end up steering the conversation their own way and you end up a passive listener with no chance to put a word in, and by the time you manage to find an opening, the topic already changed. What can I say, I'm not a social animal... Nietzsche said it best: I and I make two, and the second person is already a crowd sometimes
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Post by stan on Dec 15, 2010 20:25:54 GMT 2
a/ Music: 1. tarja turunen 2. nightwish WITH tarja turunen 3. nightwish WITHOUT tarja turunen
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Post by stan on Dec 15, 2010 20:30:03 GMT 2
b/ healthy living 1. 'gave/give up smoking' 2. 'weight waste' 3. vegetarianism
that' for today folks. tomorrow: c&d
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Post by Deleted on Dec 15, 2010 20:52:47 GMT 2
a/ Music: 1. tarja turunen 2. nightwish WITH tarja turunen 3. nightwish WITHOUT tarja turunen Haha, I agree! ;D PS: my friends know what I say related to the topic and I am not afraid to let anyone know it.. KARSI!! ;D
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Post by Heer E. Tik on Dec 15, 2010 20:57:31 GMT 2
a/ Music: 1. tarja turunen 2. nightwish WITH tarja turunen 3. nightwish WITHOUT tarja turunen I confess I never listened to Nightwish, and cannot judge nor have anything against them, but this made me laugh
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Post by Arivse on Dec 16, 2010 3:18:08 GMT 2
For me the most boring thing to discuss is fashion.. Never understod people who go with the fashion, or following todays so called styleline. Allways had my own sence of style, what I want wear and what not. I don't check if this particlar piece of cloth fits with the other from a trend/style or fashion website, if I its seems okey for me, it has to suit for the others too, or they can close their eyes And what Heer said (Sorry don't know if thats what you want to be called ) I must admit that sometimes I talk other peoples stuff with others, but for me it isn't gossiping or something like that, never want to hurt people with words nor with fists. But I do it because I feel like I have to help (stupid word, but couldn't figure out any better) and I always rethink what I say before I said it outloud. People have never got mad or angry at me for doing this. But after thinking what you wrote, maybe I should narrow my ways down, since it isn't my business to affect other peoples life continuously.
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Post by Heer E. Tik on Dec 16, 2010 4:06:53 GMT 2
Arvise, I know what you mean about the helpful intent (btw no problem on nick shortening ) - if others are already being talked about in a conversation, by engaging in it as opposed to just silently listening gives a chance to at least put in a good word for someone who is not there to do it themselves, or to verbally give a benefit of the doubt to show that nothing is really black and white... It's such a slippery road though, and I'd rather try changing the subject in such conversation before it spirals down into something gossipy as described in my post above. Isn't it strange though that gossip is so universal... from villages long ago, to big cities today, and the tighter the circle, the more vicious it can become... Maybe it serves some kind of bonding function, people who have nothing else in common and have nothing else to talk about feel like they've established common shared ground by talking about others, and each time they do it it gives a sense of bonding. But take away the gossip and their friendships fall apart, because they were built on such shallow illusory ground.
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