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Post by illumina on Mar 4, 2005 12:39:20 GMT 2
hmmmmm. so you must like me, since you've never flirted with me. :] How _you_ doin'? (best Joey from Friends impression!)
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Post by illumina on Mar 4, 2005 12:43:46 GMT 2
The problem (you know I always look for a "but" or a "problem" is that I don't really know for sure if I behave at the library as I really am. , I don't force it in anyway, so I supposse I'm like that, but I'm also very surprised of my behaviour, and I'm upset I'm not able of being like that when outside. It sounds like you are just a bit more confident at work, not that you're not being yourself. That's a good thing - confidence is attractive (although too much becomes arrogance, and that's _bad_!).
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Post by MaliceGarden on Mar 4, 2005 13:01:39 GMT 2
fine, thks! "do you wanna grab a cup of coffee?" :]
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Post by DaveTheRake on Mar 4, 2005 14:55:10 GMT 2
Hmmmm....... I don't know what to think. She has come, but has just given me a book; I had toled her I thought she was not coming today, and she has said she always has to come to class, but has said no more. She has pass three times in front of me and hasn't even look at me... my friends tell me that I always look for hidden causes where there really aren't and people don't follow a motivation when doing certain things... but I think that maybe she has seen that I pay her a "special" atention and she smells what I feel, she doesn't correspond and wants to keep some distance. And I have a strange sensation that tells me I should forget about her
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Post by illumina on Mar 6, 2005 16:00:54 GMT 2
fine, thks! "do you wanna grab a cup of coffee?" :] *grin* sorry, I don't like coffee!!
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Post by MaliceGarden on Mar 6, 2005 16:05:44 GMT 2
cool! i also dont like!
generally, the fizzy drink that i drink is Sprite. one of my favourite drinks is cider - tree "tea".
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Post by illumina on Mar 6, 2005 16:05:49 GMT 2
Hmmmm....... I don't know what to think. She has come, but has just given me a book; I had toled her I thought she was not coming today, and she has said she always has to come to class, but has said no more. She has pass three times in front of me and hasn't even look at me... my friends tell me that I always look for hidden causes where there really aren't and people don't follow a motivation when doing certain things... but I think that maybe she has seen that I pay her a "special" atention and she smells what I feel, she doesn't correspond and wants to keep some distance. And I have a strange sensation that tells me I should forget about her It's possible she's just shy, you know! Or maybe you're right, but you'll never know unless you ask her. It'd be horrible not to ask, to try and forget about her, and then months later find out she _did_ like you after all. If you ask, and she's not interested, what have you lost? (apart from self-confidence, pride etc etc *grin*). Of course, it may be worth trying to find out whether she does have a boyfriend or not first.... Maybe you should try inviting her to a party or something, and tell her to bring a friend if she wants. If she turns up on someone's arm, you've answered the question, if alone, well, you've got yourself an opportunity....
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Post by Humppaporo on Mar 6, 2005 18:31:20 GMT 2
I do not agree completely with you Illumina, he loses more than self-confidence etc He loses hope...that maybe, it might be ...some day.... But I agree with Illumina that he should ask her. Maybe things will change (for a while), can be good or bad, but after a while there is even in the worst case, a return to the current status. Dave, you have to get on with your life...grab your courage and our good luck wishes, and ask her out or so. If she accepts, go some place nice, have dinner maybe and then...well, that's the nice part I suppose. Wish you all the luck!
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Post by DaveTheRake on Mar 6, 2005 19:15:44 GMT 2
Thank you two, I thank you very very much Both of you are right; it's true that if you don't run the risk you can't win, although it's a very tough thing. The problem with this is that if I ask her and she says no we'll have to see each other till the end of june, and situation could be uncomfortable. At least I think it's too soon to try to make any movement, I first should be sure that she for example has no boyfriend, or well, more important than that I should have more confidence with her, in fact we've only talked in the subtle intercourse you can have while asking for a book and loaning it, you know. I'm trying to win a bit of her confidence, trying to talk a bit when she comes, taling of literature and things like that. Tomorrow I'll ask her about how the weekend was and things like that. The problem with asking her to go out or going to a party is that I'll maybe show my cards too quickly, don't you think? I have friends that do that and for him is natural enough, but I always have the sense that when you're inviting a gir or a bpoy to have a coffee or something on a sunday/saturday evening there's an implicit message which says "I like you", that's why I'm never too much comfortable with these things. Anyway, I think I have a party on Spanish-Finnish Institute on 16th, I could tell her. I once told another girl, I send her a message, she didn't even answer and for a while we've been a bit cold to each other; that's why I think that being a great advise and a great chance, maybe I should be a bit more careful, don't know. Anyway thank you once again You're helping me too much, it's a pity I'm a bit coward when dealing with this kind of things and I use to give it to much thinking to get a clear idea of what I should do and what I shouldn't... As Ian Anderson would say, "skating away on the thin ice of the new day"...
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Post by illumina on Mar 6, 2005 20:50:35 GMT 2
I really think you should mention the party to her. Just bring it up, say she should come along, but be obvious there's no pressure... like I said, even suggest she bring a friend, ie a date if she wants. That way, maybe you could subtly find out if she has a significant other.
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Post by MaliceGarden on Mar 6, 2005 20:53:23 GMT 2
twi: wassa? you havent been posting. what are the advice of the german girl?
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Post by twilightheart on Mar 6, 2005 23:24:28 GMT 2
twi: wassa? you havent been posting. what are the advice of the german girl? Huh? I thought, you`ve been talking to Illumina! What exactly do you need an advice for???
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Post by MaliceGarden on Mar 7, 2005 11:43:40 GMT 2
thats insulting! of course, i dont need advice: me am 8th deadly sin!
the advice is for dave. :]
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Post by DaveTheRake on Mar 7, 2005 12:12:26 GMT 2
Ok, now, answer sincerely, when was that you had you an affaire with a girl? Don't lie man, I can guess you are as wanker as I!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Post by MaliceGarden on Mar 7, 2005 12:21:15 GMT 2
im having one now. but, so far has been platonic. but "dont get me wrong, dont get me wrong"(/me singing The Pretenders song)
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